Adding to the sadness and loss of this wacky time we’re all living in is Mom’s slipping away. It’s a normal part of dementia’s progression, but it is truly brutal, especially since we’ve not been able to visit her for the past six weeks or so.
The wonderful staff at her memory care residence have scheduled four short video chats for us each week, so my brothers and I can at least see her and talk to her. She’s not able to converse and often doesn’t engage at all, except perhaps for a word or two or maybe a smile or a kiss. Two minutes into our call earlier this week, she stood up from her chair in front of the camera and moved about her room, mostly out of my view. I pulled up an Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong duet on YouTube, so she could listen although I have no idea if she did.

On the knitting front, I’ve finished the first sock of my latest pair. Vanilla Latte pattern in a lovely speckled yarn that I can’t for the life of me remember the name of!

I’m pleased to have remembered to make the leg about 2in/5cm longer than usual. I’m generally so eager to get to the heel flap that I shortchange the leg — and who wants a short sock?
Here’s hoping that I do the same on the second sock!
So sorry to hear of this sad time. I would like to think the music you played was some comfort.
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I like to think that, too. It felt like a connection to me — and for me.
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So sorry that you and your family are going through this! It is a hard thing to go through in general, and especially so without being able to visit with her in person. So nice that the staff at her home can facilitate video chats, though!
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The video connection is very much appreciated, even though there’s no conversation, there is connection.
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I want to send you oceans of love Mary, you and your siblings are now keepers of the memories. Heart wrenching to think this is taking place now, during this already difficult time. You are the best of daughters, hang in there, and don’t forget the extra 2 inches !!
Much love xxxooo
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Thanks for the note, dear Anna. We’re so fortunate, but it’s never easy to lose someone you love. xoxo
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Thinking of you and your family. Thanks for writing with an update. Sending love.
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I send my love to you. I can’t imagine how very hard it is to be separated. You have been such devoted and supportive angels. It’s lovely to see her face. She looks so calm and bright. Hugs. Melissa
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Thanks so much, Melissa. My brothers and I consider ourselves so very lucky and are grateful that Mom’s not overly anxious. A blessing indeed. sending love down to you!
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This must be so hard — keep calling and knitting, Mary Ann! God bless.
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Thanks, dear Arlie! xo
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I’m so sorry for the physical distance between you and your Mom due to COVID-19. Thank you for writing about it. You are not alone in this, and your words help us connect the private experiences we are each having. Sending love and encouragement to you and your family as you make your way through this brutal situation.
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Thanks so much, Perk! Your writings have been an ongoing source of connection and reassurance for me. xo
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I appreciate your writing too!!!
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